You can use the TableDescriptor.ColumnToRowColIndex to get this information. Here is code you can add to a TableControlDrawCellDisplayText event handler in the \3.3.0.0\Windows\Grid.Windows\Samples\Grouping\EmployeeView sample that shows you you can use it. You need the column name which you can get from the e.Style in QueryCellStyleInfo in a similar manner as shown below.
private void gridGroupingControl1_TableControlDrawCellDisplayText(object sender, GridTableControlDrawCellDisplayTextEventArgs e)
{
GridTableCellStyleInfo style = e.Inner.Style as GridTableCellStyleInfo;
if(style.TableCellIdentity.Column != null)
{
int row, col;
if(style.TableCellIdentity.Table.TableDescriptor.ColumnToRowColIndex(style.TableCellIdentity.Column.Name, out row, out col))
{
e.Inner.DisplayText = string.Format("{0}_{1}_{2}", row, col, e.Inner.DisplayText);
}
}
}