I do not know of a VS studio tool that will do this.
One technique I use to see the flow of events is to add handlers with Console.Writelines in them writing out the event handler name. This way the events are displayed in the output window as they are hit when you run your application in debug.
If you have the source code for the libraries, you can use the built-tracing functionality. Make sure you are using debug builds of the grid, shared, grouping, gridgrouping libraries. Tracing does not work in release versions.
With debug builds, you should only have to include the exe.config file with the correct switches in your EXE folder.
Here is a sample for a gridcontrol.
Now in the grid\sample\Quick start\GridPad sample, there is a config file with a lot of the switches that have an ''s'' or ''x'' in front of them. This effectively turns off that particular tracing. Remove these extra characters if you want to their output in the trace.
To see all the possible switches, look in the switches.cs file found in each library source.