I was trying to find a solution to programatically select all rows in a GridgroupingControl and I found your question.
Well, maybe it is just a variant of what you want but, to help someone else to do the same, here it goes.
this.gridDataBoundGrid1.Model.Selections.Add(Syncfusion.Windows.Forms.Grid.GridRangeInfo.Rows(1, this.gridDataBoundGrid1.Model.RowCount));
Best regards,
Sergio Costa