Hi Russell,
Currently, In SfListView you cannot apply Styles to certain specific properties such as BackgroundColor, SelectionBackgroundColor, Margin, ItemSpacing since we have define the default value for those properties during the initialization of SfListView in our side. So, as we have mentioned in our earlier update, we will consider this as feature request and the date for the implementation is tentative and it will be available in any of our upcoming releases. We will let you know once it has been implemented.
Regards,
G.Muthu kumaran.