You will not be able to just set properties and get this to work using any of our grids.
Below is one solution that using a GridDataBoundGrid and QueryCellInfo/SaveCellInfo to handle this problem. It uses a ITypedList implementation on the main collection to make things a little more general. You could simplify things (in the short run) by hard coding things, but using the typedlist shows how you might handle it in a more general way.
9406_742.zip