Try setting the alpha part of the selection color to 1, and then handle PrepareViewStyleInfo to set the backcolor of the cell if it is selected.
this.gridDataBoundGrid1.AlphaBlendSelectionColor = System.Drawing.Color.FromArgb(1, 178, 180, 191);
private void gridDataBoundGrid1_PrepareViewStyleInfo(object sender, GridPrepareViewStyleInfoEventArgs e)
{
if(e.ColIndex > 0 && e.RowIndex > 0
&& this.gridDataBoundGrid1.Selections.GetSelectedRows(true, true).AnyRangeContains(GridRangeInfo.Cell(e.RowIndex, e.ColIndex)))
{
e.Style.BackColor = Color.DodgerBlue;
}
}